mother of the bride
Hopefully, if you have a daughter, there will only be one time when you are the mother of the bride. This will be a special day for you, and your daughter will be relying on your for support, even if she does not say as much with words. You may find that she is leaning on her friend for a lot of things, but your presence will be all of the comfort that she needs. The mother of the bride is often more of a position of honor, but all moms and daughters know what is really going on.
My mom didn’t take her mother of the bride role too seriously, though I kind of wish she had. I loved that she was supportive, but she was only as supportive as her husband would allow her to be. Though he was happy my husband and I were getting married, he is not big on anything like a wedding or a party. He is a very simple man, and feels uncomfortable when he has to dress up. All of the excitement of a wedding was something that was too much for him, and he took up a lot of my mom’s time when I needed her.
She did what she could though, and that was enough for me. She asked me time and time again what she should wear for her mother of the bride outfit, and I told her that she could wear whatever it was that she felt the most comfortable in. My mom has never been one to wear a lot of dresses, and I told her that her mother of the bride outfit could be one of the many great pantsuits that she had. She did wear one, but I am pretty sure she got a new one just for the wedding.
Remember to honor the mother of the bride at your wedding, even if you don’t feel as close as you once were. Things happen in life where people might argue or disagree, but you only have one wedding. If you don’t include your mother in the many things most people do, you are going to regret it in the future. I know there are some cases where the mother of the bride is not welcome, but in any other case, you should do everything you can to let her know how much she means to you, and to let everyone else know as well.
